How to Know When You have Gotta Go

This month marks three years since I gave notice at my job. Scratch that – this month marks three years since I gave notice at my career.  Because that’s really what it was: the beginning of what is likely becoming the end of a more than two-decade career in radio.

16-08-2015

How to Know When You have Gotta Go

This month marks three years since I gave notice at my job. Scratch that – this month marks three years since I gave notice at my career.  Because that’s really what it was: the beginning of what is likely becoming the end of a more than two-decade career in radio.

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Published on August 16, 2015 by FRANK

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How To Know When You Have Gotta Go

This month marks three years since I gave notice at my job. Scratch that – this month marks three years since I gave notice at my career.  Because that’s really what it was: the beginning of what is likely becoming the end of a more than two-decade career in radio.


For 22 years, I loved my job. For 22 years I had a job that people would covet. For 22 years, I was one of the most fortunate people on the planet because I was allowed – no, encouraged! – to do the thing I loved and to do the thing I was really, really good at. 

Then I left. And nobody could believe it! “What the hell are you doing?!” they asked. I don’t know, I replied, but I just feel like I have to call an audible and switch up the play. 
Except I’m a terrible quarterback and I have no idea which play to call. I had no idea what I wanted to do next. 
I quit without anything else lined up, which you are never, ever, EVER supposed to do. (I should know – I hosted a personal finance show for six years.) 

Here’s the question I get more often than any other: “How did you know when it was time to go?” 
A lot of employees ask themselves that question on a regular basis. 

We know that because a Gallup poll a couple of years ago found that fully 70 percent of American workers are disengaged from their jobs. 
It’s not a stretch to assume that many of them have asked at what point they’ll just have to say “Uncle!” Even if you love your job, or your company, or on the contrary you feel like you have to stay in a job you don’t like because of financial obligations... sometimes it just tugs at you. “I gotta go. I just have to go.”

So... how do you decide that it’s time? 

  1. It’s time to go when you have too much self-respect to stay. This is something I said in a speech I gave in 2013 about leaving my job. I didn’t talk about the specifics of why I left, but I think this is a good way to describe that haunting feeling of being disrespected, under-valued, and for some people, even mistreated. You do not have time to put up with a work environment that doesn’t respect you or your role. You don’t have time because life is just too damn short for that! You must demand better. Leave. They don’t deserve you. And you don’t owe them. This is a business transaction and you need to do an emotional cost-benefit analysis. If the costs outweigh the benefits, get out.
  2. It’s time to go when your body starts screaming at you that it’s time to go. My hair stopped growing. True story! My blonde mane got thin and scraggly and there was no explanation for it other than stress. And my only source of stress at the time was my workplace. I should’ve paid attention a lot sooner than I did, but I didn’t want it to be true. I didn’t want to admit that my feelings about work were contributing to a health issue. I’ve talked with dozens of other people who quit their jobs and almost all of them had experienced some sort of physical manifestation of the stress they were feeling, sometimes subconsciously, at work: back pain, sleeplessness, migraines, and almost always these were symptoms that were unusual for them. Pay attention to what your body is telling you.
  3. It’s time to go when you’re asking yourself the question “How will I know when it’s time to go?” It’s past time to start thinking about how you’re going to make it happen. The fact that you’re even asking the question means that something isn’t right. There may not be anything wrong, so to speak, but there is something in you that’s asking what else the world might have on offer. You don’t have to hate your job to think that maybe you’ve reached your limit with it. (If you do hate your job then you’ve definitely hit your limit. I don’t need to tell you that, right?) You should get out before that happens. Getting to the point where you are truly miserable means you won’t be in a frame of mind to think through all the ramifications, and you certainly won’t be in a frame of mind to figure out what comes next. You’ll just be angry. It’s time to go before that happens.

But for all I’ve said here, I can’t really tell you how you’ll know. Only you can figure that out. Only you can make that decision. I made the decision in a singular afternoon when I decided that I’d had enough, and that I’d come home in tears one too many times. I loved my job. I was really good at it. And I was terrified of what would come next. 

But leaving was the right decision, as difficult as these last three years have been. Don’t stay with something that’s not working for you. 
You will find another place for yourself. You get one shot at this life and if you’re not finding at least some element of joy in the thing you do for many, many hours out of each day... go. It’s time.

Read more from Tess Vigeland in her new book, LEAP

 

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